What is Cunnilingus?

“Five mistakes,” “eight rules,” “seven tips,” “six foolproof tricks,” “seven myths,” “what you should never do”… despite the vast amount of porn available online, there are still many misconceptions about the glorious and ancient art of cunnilingus. The positive side is the growing interest in a highly pleasurable practice that hasn’t always been viewed favorably by men or (surprisingly) women. Shame, prejudices, and excessive modesty are often why many people refuse to give or receive oral sex. Let’s drop the absurd scruples and learn to enjoy without inhibitions.

Humans have everted (turned outwards) and innervated (filled with nerve endings) lips designed to kiss whatever we please. Soft and sensitive, the mouth is perfect for stimulating any erogenous zone, and the vulva is no exception. Whether as foreplay, the main course, part of an all-you-can-eat buffet, or whatever you fancy, we warn you: if you do it right, both of you will have a great time.

How to Perform Oral Sex on a Woman Step by Step

Since the ‘Definitive Guide’ on how to perform cunnilingus written by Violet Blue was such a hit that it’s now impossible to find at a reasonable price (we’ve seen second-hand copies for 120 euros), you’ll have to settle for our humble advice. But first, do you want a book? Here’s the summary of the definitive guide on how to perform cunnilingus by EroticFeel.

One: Basic Knowledge of Vulva Anatomy

You don’t need to enroll in gynecology, but at least you should know and locate its different parts and understand the sensitivity each part offers. If you’re part of the clitoris-deniers, don’t worry, there are people and books that can help you.

Two: Use Common Sense

Imagine this: you’re about to be kissed and you’re eagerly waiting for it, but instead of feeling the warm touch of other lips, a rigid tongue suddenly appears in your mouth without warning. Do you like it, or does it make you gag? Exactly.

Three: You’re Not a Dog Reuniting with Its Owner After Months Apart

Don’t dive in wildly and randomly lick everything, covering it all with saliva.

Four: Delicacy, Rhythm, and Gradually Increasing Pressure

The tongue should move over the lips, reaching the edge of the clitoris but not touching it yet, with fingers complementing the caresses. Go slowly and steadily, paying attention to the other person’s body. Their hips and pelvis will lift and move, indicating the level of arousal and what’s needed at each moment.

Start from the Outside In

We understand the confusion. You keep hearing that the clitoris is the most sensitive organ with the most nerve endings in the body (it has 8,000, double that of the glans of the penis), and now we’re telling you not to go straight to it. The reason is that its high sensitivity can make direct pressure very uncomfortable without prior caresses and arousal. Don’t focus on just one spot. Start gently by exploring the external part of the vulva. In fact, if you start by doing it over underwear, it’s even better.

The labia majora are made of the same sensitive tissue that forms the clitoris and are therefore very receptive to caresses. Gently caress them with your mouth and tongue as you make your way inside. Between the clitoris and the vaginal entrance, we also have the U-spot, which is named so because it’s around the urethra. This spot is also very sensitive and worth considering during oral stimulation. As things progress, slowly and carefully approach the clitoris.

Control the Intensity

Do you know the expression “like a bull in a china shop”? Avoid it at all costs. The rhythm and intensity of stimulation are crucial for the other person to enjoy it. Start softly and gently, and gradually increase the speed and intensity as arousal builds. As mentioned earlier, the body’s response doesn’t lie. Pay attention to the movement of the pelvis and hips.

Don’t Focus Solely on the Clitoris

We touched on this earlier but want to expand on it. We’ve already said not to go straight to the clitoris, but once you get there, don’t forget there are other areas you should continue to stimulate. Using your fingers or a sex toy (we’ll tell you which is best later) will greatly intensify the pleasure.

Use Lubricant

This depends entirely on your preferences, though a little lubricant never hurts. While saliva moistens the area during oral sex and might seem sufficient, cunnilingus doesn’t have to exclude penetration, such as with a sex toy. The right amount of a good water-based lubricant will enhance the pleasure of the caresses. There are also many flavored lubricants specifically designed for this moment, and although they’re very good, we prefer the natural taste of a clean vulva. It’s a matter of personal preference.

You Can Also Use Sex Toys

Absolutely. Sex toys are there to enhance any fun. You can use an external vibrator before starting, or our favorite option, use a vibrator to stimulate the vagina while your mouth focuses on the clitoris. An orgasm is guaranteed.

Surprise, Don’t Fall into Monotony

Be careful with this because it’s not about changing what works, like going slow at first, gradually increasing intensity, and not focusing solely on the clitoris. Those things shouldn’t change. But there are other things you can do to break the monotony, and the location is one of them. Don’t limit yourself to the bed because cunnilingus is perfect for performing, for example, with her lying on a table or standing in the shower.

Our Tips for Mastering Cunnilingus

Don’t make your tongue rigid or give random licks.
Don’t rush; it’s not about achieving orgasm in five minutes.
Always pay attention to her reactions.
Use your lips, not just your tongue.
Remember you have fingers and that there are sex toys to complement oral stimulation, making it more intense.
Enjoy the pleasure of doing it; if you don’t enjoy it, she probably won’t either.